2015

As the new year begins, I find myself reflecting on everything that happened in 2015. I started the year in a relationship with someone who didn’t know how to be in a relationship. As we get further into a relationship, we tend to ignore the doubt and tell ourselves we can make it work even though deep down we know we can’t. After some miscommunication and a couple of small mistakes, that relationship ended. At the time I wouldn’t realize how much I needed that but instead I spent a month crying every single day because I couldn’t grasp the concept that someone really just did not want a relationship with me. I look back now and I think about how selfish that was because being dumped was exactly what I needed last year. After a month of tears and wondering what I did wrong and begging, yes begging, to get back together, I finally decided that I needed to do something better with my life. I deleted the Microsoft Word document that I had created months earlier that essentially told me what a complete failure I was, I applied to jobs online, and I started coaching at South Orlando Crossfit. After landing a job at a law firm, I slowly started gaining my confidence back. I was working at the law firm during the day, coaching after work, then bartending at night and I was enjoying every minute of it. In August, I heard about a job opening overseas with a company called Vectrus and I sent them my resume. After landing the job, I decided that I would spend my last couple of weeks in the United States going to the cities I’ve always dreamed of going to and spending time doing things I had never done. I quit my job at the law firm and planned trips back to back, I had a new city or place to visit almost every weekend before I left the United States.

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The first city I went to was Chicago, IL. I’m a huge Chicago Bears fan so I went to my first home game in Soldier Field while I was there. I went to the skydeck, I ate real deep dish pizza, and I saw the bean. I did everything I wanted to do in Chicago and it was amazing.

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The following weekend, I went to New York City with my parents and my little brother. We stayed in the Westin hotel in Times Square, we saw Lion King on Broadway sitting only five rows back, we went to an NFL football game and watched the Jacksonville Jaquars play the New York Jets three rows behind the field goal, we visited the 9/11 memorial and went into Freedom Tower, we rode the subway, had lots of laughs and most importantly, enjoyed each others company.

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The following week, a group of friends and I decided to travel to Columbus, Ohio for the Ohio State vs Michigan State game. Although it was cold and rainy, Ohio is tons of fun and I would definitely recommend it to anyone who likes Ohio State and alcohol.

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Before I knew it, my last weekend in Florida had slowly creeped up on me. I spent my last night with friends from my Crossfit gym dancing, drinking and crying the night away at a tiny underground club called Stardust. I left the bar, changed and hopped straight onto the plane. Goodbye Florida!

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Before I flew to Kuwait, I had to go through a validation process at Fort Bliss in El Paso, TX. I spent a week in Texas because we had to get medically cleared and do some mandatory military training provided by the army which was very interesting for people who have no prior service. After leaving Texas, it took us about a day and a half to finally land in Kuwait City. When we arrived at the airport, we were bussed to the main airport where we received our temporary Kuwait visas and had our passports stamped. I was fascinated with getting my passport stamped for the first time, I felt like a real traveler.

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The contractors working with my company have to stay in a transit company flat during our first week because we had to go through the company training. The company housing looked like a real world house, there were different rooms with bunk beds and a shared living and dining area. After the week of training, everyone in the company was sent their separate ways and if you were staying in Kuwait City then you were assigned a flat, also known as an apartment in the United States. Once I finally got settled into my new flat, I hung out with my friend Diego who has slowly been introducing me to many people in the city. I spent my Christmas with them, eating arepas and empanadas, dancing to Latin music and screaming Justin Beiber at the top of our lungs. I don’t think I’ve ever had so much fun being away from home on a holiday.

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Reflecting back on 2015, it started out a little rocky but you live and learn from mistakes. We tend to look at things in the moment and reflect on our past instead of moving forward. I didn’t realize how blessed I was until I was looking at the Kuwait sunset with two of my newest friends and I stood there and just reflected on my life over the past year. I have a great job, a supportive family and amazing friends, and I get to travel to places in the world that people only dream about. I wouldn’t say I’m lucky, I would just say I’m blessed to have the opportunity to live in another country and meet amazing people every day. Your life is exactly what you make it, take the negative things and turn that energy into something positive.

10 thoughts on “2015

  1. LOVE this blog! Open, honest, raw…from the heart. Needs to be out there for others to see that when you’re down and out, have faith in yourself and you will come out okay on the otherside. <3

  2. Absolutely love love loveeeeeeee this blog site tia, remember greats things come to those who have a open mind and willing to share the experience….

  3. Great thoughts Tia, some stuff I didn’t know about you! We are thrilled to have finally met you, in person, this past year and hope to remain in regular contact with you in 2016 and the years to come. Looking forward to your next blog and to hear from you in IMs too!! #HugsFromAZ

  4. My dear friend, I love how you opened up yourself to the world. As I read this I quickly saw myself and related so much. Now that I’ve been in Kuwait for over year I can honestly say it’s been the best experience for me. I myself started my new year “2014” making a decision I thought was for the best, but towards the end of the year I realized it still wasn’t a mistake. I say this because I learned a lot about myself and although it was tough and toxic, it has brought me to where I am today, as an over seas contractor and soon will marry the love of my life. Which I never would’ve met if I didn’t go through this experience.

    I’m glad you decided to do this. Mahal kita

  5. Prima,
    Mom told me that you wrote a blog and after having a super rough day and not wanting to think about anything – I decided to read it. Wow, I am again in amazement with you. I’ve always told people (with regards to conversations about family) how much of a go-getter my little cousin is. She’s been through a lot in her young life, but all of the good/bad/indifferent – none of it has ever kept you down.. Your work ethic is unheard-of with this generation, your determination is more than what most men possess and your all around spirit is screams, “WE HAVE 1 LIFE, MAKE THE BEST OF IT!” Tia, I am so happy and proud for all that you are and all you have yet to be….. You are an inspiration to me and, I’m sure, without question to others. Continue to live your life the way you want because at the end of each day, the question becomes, “Am I happy?” And my answer is to you is, “YOU BETTER BE GIRL , you’ve seen/done/experienced more in your life than people in their 50s, 60s and 70s!” I love you Prima and I admire you brave soul! Always thinking of you, Ashley

  6. You go girl. Great blog Tia. You are brave & bold & daring. Don’t ever let anyone stop you from following your dreams. I’m really proud of you. Take good care of yourself & stay out of harm’s way. Love to you Tia your great Aunt Wendy.

  7. Hi Tia,
    What a wonderful blog. I wanted to let you know how proud of you I am. I know you had a lot of rough times throughout your young life and you have remained positive and never forgetting your dreams. Continue to dream big, follow your star and have a great life Tia. You are also a very talented writer. I hope you’ll continue your blog and keep us up on what is going on in your life. Take good care and be safe.
    Aunt Pammie

  8. DEAR TIA,

    I WAS VERY TOUCHED BY YOUR BLOG. I READ THE ENTIRE BLOG AND WAS SO PROUD OF YOU. MAYBE ONE DAY BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE WE CAN MEET AND TALK. JAMIE HAS A BROWN ENVELOPE FOR YOU, I GAVE IT TO HER FOR HER TO GIVE TO YOU. I’VE ALWAYS LOVED YOU AND AM STILL PROUD THAT I WAS THE FIRST ONE TO HOLD YOU WHEN YOU WERE BORN. IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL DAY!! TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF HONEY,GOD BLESS YOU AND KNOW I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART. LOVE GRAM MITCHELL XXOO

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