“How different would people act if they couldn’t show off on social media? Would they still do it?”
― Donna Lynn Hope
It’s 2016 and this world is controlled by social media. Instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat amongst others, have single handedly become the way we judge people, how we advertise to people, and are essentially how we showcase who we are. Now, I’m not saying social media is a terrible thing because it’s a great way to keep in touch with people and a great way to keep track of what’s going on in the world but these sites also tear people apart. I’m guilty, I have social media and I use it daily mostly to communicate with all friends and family and to promote my new business. As the years pass by, social media continues to control our emotions and destroy relationships. Essentially, social media determines our happiness and is how many people seek a constant need for approval from their online peers.
Control our happiness?
Most people will argue this statement with me but think about it for a second. How many of you get mad when your significant other refuses to post about you on social media? How many of you get riled up about political debates or someone’s status on Facebook? The minute something happens do you post it on social media for the world to see? Have you ever been so annoyed of someone because of the things they post on social media? I would be really surprised if any of you said no to all four of those questions. We let social media control the way we think whether we realize it or not. I know I’m guilty of letting social media control my happiness, I remember being so upset about a snapchat someone sent me of my ex-boyfriend flirting with another girl. You read that right, a fucking snapchat and the best part was we weren’t even together. There’s too much hate in this world for people to be upset about something as little as a Facebook post or a random snapchat, we need to take control of our happiness. People are too consumed with themselves, social media, what’s hot and what’s not, and what others think to be happy though; they let a mean comment on their Instagram photo control the way they feel. We should be able to post things on social media without the thought of someone lashing out at us because of our opinion on something, we shouldn’t feel obligated to post about everything that happens in our life because it isn’t the world’s business, we should stop posting things on social media for “likes” but because we genuinely just want to post about it, and who cares if you’re not Facebook official as long as you’re happy with each other?
Constant need for approval?
So what exactly do I mean when I say social media is a way for people to seek a constant need for approval from other people online? Have you ever taken a picture and looked at it and thought to yourself, “I look like shit in that, I can’t post that!”? I believe everyone is guilty of doing this at least once in their lifetime, except maybe my parents. Mom and Dad love taking photos of everything and posting them online, even the 9849248 selfies I took on Christmas Day 2014 with Dad’s phone as a joke. Anyways, that was meant to be funny so laugh a little while I finish explaining this constant need for approval. Lots of people are scared to actually be themselves on social media platforms because somewhere along the line, someone told them to stop talking or posting about something they love. It’s actually really sad to me because one mean remark or bad review on something can change a person’s entire mindset, if you say it to the right person. We need to respect the fact that everyone is different from us and we all have different dreams and goals. People post things they think will get them “likes” and the most approval from their social media followers versus just posting random shit that makes them happy. Want a perfect example of this? Head over to my Instagram page- you’ll notice most of the pictures I post are either me working out, selfies, me traveling, or me drinking. I’ll delete things I post later if I don’t like the way it “looks” on my page and I tend to post things I think will be interesting to my followers. I know I’m not the only person who does this, most people do. It’s the sad truth, people want approval so they post things or don’t post things according to how they feel people will react to their post.
Fuck social media.
It’s too easy to sit behind a screen and be a fucking asshole to someone. I think some people forget how to be kind when they login to a social media platform. People will watch a video of someone lifting and suddenly be a coach, then name everything they think they did wrong in that lift instead of just congratulating them on a new personal record. Someone will post a status about their opinion on something and all of a sudden, they’re an idiot because they don’t agree with you instead of just acknowledging the fact people are different and have different opinions about things. Someone will go on a rant on snapchat and there will always be that person who messages them and tells them to shut up, instead of letting the person rant on about their issue because they probably have no one else to vent too. Bottom line is, we never know what someone is going through or what their dreams are. People sit behind a screen and discourage others, tell them to shut up or nobody cares, but what exactly does that do? I have a cool idea, why don’t we use social media to encourage people, compliment them, and just genuinely be a nice person? If someone annoys us, unfollow them or delete them. If you don’t like their opinion or their style, ignore it. Life is too short to care what people think, so post away. If it makes you happy, do it. If you think it’s funny, share it. If you want to rant on social media, rant. Be you. It’s really simple actually, until my next post, inshalla.